“If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. If he doesn’t want you, nothing can make him stay. Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior. Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache. Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that’s not meant to be. Slower is better.
Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.
If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can’t “be friends”. A friend wouldn’t mistreat a friend.
Don’t settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is. Don’t stay because you think “it will get better.” You’ll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better. The only person you can control in a relationship is you.
Avoid men who’ve got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. He didn’t marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently?
Always have your own set of friends separate from his. Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you, speak up. Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later. You cannot change a man’s behavior. Change comes from within. Don’t EVER make him feel he is more important than you are… even if he has more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less.
Never let a man define who you are. Never borrow someone else’s man. If he cheated with you, he’ll cheat on you. A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you. All men are NOT dogs. You should not be the one doing all the bending…compromise is two way street.
You need time to heal between relationships…there is nothing cute about baggage… Deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship. You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you…a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals… look for someone complimentary… not supplementary.
Dating is fun… even if he doesn’t turn out to be Mr. Right. Make him miss you sometimes… when a man always know where you are, and you’re always readily available to him - he takes it for granted. Never move into his mother’s house. Never co-sign for a man. Don’t fully commit to a man who doesn’t give you everything that you need. Keep him in your radar but get to know others.
Share this, you’ll make someone smile, another rethink their choices, and another woman prepare.
They say it takes a minute to find a special person, an hour to appreciate them, a day to love them….and an entire lifetime to forget them.
Scared of being alone is what makes a lot of women stay in relationships that are abusive or hurtful: Dr. Phil says… You should know that: You’re the best thing that could ever happen to anyone and if a man mistreats you, he’ll miss out on a good thing. If he was attracted to you in the 1st place, just know that he’s not the only one. They’re all watching you, so you have a lot of choices. Make the right one. Ladies take care of your own hearts…”
I’m blessed with a little piece of heaven with every waking moment, every lesson learned, every journey conquered, every experience made, every chance to fall in love with someone, something, somewhere in life. And with every year that passes these moments, these lessons, these journeys and experiences, this love.. is an existential piece to the mosaic of heaven I’m living right now.
Personal Thought, Goodbye 2012 — Hello 2013
Happy New Year everyone!
“Throw your dreams into space like a kite, and you do not know what it will bring back; a new life, a new friend, a new love, a new country…” — Anais Nin
Anais Nin is a beautiful writer. This is just one of many quotes that I love.
As a dedication, I hand-wrote her quote and set up this picture in my office with the many supplies I had in hand. It symbolizes that even with the chaos that life brings us, whether it be work, school, relationships between family and friends, it is always important to keep dreams alive for we don’t know what to expect from them.
Regardless of the outcome of our dreams… Be it come true or not… We always captivate something special, gain something magnificent, which morphs us into the most exquisite beings we are yesterday, today, and the many tomorrows that come.
Positive thinking results in positive outcomes. Smile through the bullshit and carry on towards a life worth living…