Comfortable..

How did it get to this? My heart used to skip beats and now it’s stuck in normal rhythm. Before, I would get butterflies in my stomach and could not wipe this stupid smile off of my face. The days when we used to have fun have now become routine. That’s when the good things are forgotten because in this world, good things always seem to come to an end. That’s when they say it…and there is no justification as to why it’s been said and why it hurts, because the very word is a contradiction to the situation, but it does. — Since when did “comfortable” become such a negative expression? Isn’t that the very word that’s supposed to represent the state of being in absolute happiness and control because of the willingness and acceptance of everything you are to one another. And I’m not just talking about the drama that every relationship contains, I’m talking about the acceptance of a person’s entirety…flaws, blemishes and all. Yet this word “comfort” has been misconstrued to define the very reason why he or she left you…why he or she kept the other one a secret while you catered to their every need.

In any type of relationship you can’t avoid being comfortable. It comes hand in hand as you get to know a person more and more. As effortless as it is to fall madly in love with someone it is even more fallible to fall into that category. So what do you do when what you are used to becomes a bore? The lazy will seek other playmates, the coward will stay silent, and the weak will shut down until what you have left is a meaningless connection that turns into resentment and makes “comfortable” a foul word to swallow. It was never meant to look that way if you just took a deeper look at a different angle…

Comfortable never meant leaving your goals, dreams and aspirations to marinate into oblivion. It is not an excuse to be subjective to the accustomed ideals of a long-term relationship. Being comfortable should never be a reason why you fall out of love, but should be the very reason to fuel your love. So what? You’re comfortable with one another, you accept each other…flaws and all. In a society where we’re constantly dreaming, making new goals, aspiring to be better and learn more to make ourselves happy…this comfortable state you see in a disparaging manner, should be the exact point why you’d want to share those goals and dreams with them. As much as you’re used to the daily routines there’s a reason why you’re comfortable, it’s because you find comfort in this person who knows every little detail about you right down to the special underwear you wear on Tuesdays, to what makes you laugh and what makes you cry. A person who no matter how terrible you look or how much of a douche or bitch you are due to an awful day at work, accepts and loves you whole-heartedly because they too, are able to find comfort in you.

xo Joyce